READING POETRY AT RIVER POINT
I volunteered
to read poems to the residents of River Point, a new assisted living facility
just a mile from our home. At one time I'd thought about bringing my mom from
Santa Monica and situating her there, so I could visit her every day, not just
talk to her on the phone. But that's not going to happen. My mom is living at
Ocean House in Santa Monica, across the street from the beach, where she can
feed the seagulls every day.
So today when I
arrived at River Point I went into a small activity room, with a lovely view of
acres of wild green grass bordering the Guadalupe River, and spent time with
two new residents: Louis, 96 years old, the same age my dad would be if he
hadn't died two years ago, and a woman in wheel chair whose name I forget.
Both had just moved
in three weeks ago. They participate in any activities that get them out of
their rooms. Louis was dressed all in blue. Until a few months ago he was still
golfing, then suddenly his left leg got weak and he couldn't walk. He uses a
wheel chair now and asked for a pillow, to sit on a regular chair. "Because
you're bony, like me," I said which made him laugh.
The heavy lady
was on the phone, so I waited until she was done, and leafed through a magazine.
I have trouble focusing my ears when there are other sounds going on around
me. Louis waited patiently. When the
lady hung up she apologized, saying there had been "another death in the
family."
I told them I
was a poet and read several of my students' poems. Then I read them "The
New Colossus" by Emma Lazarus, the poem commissioned for the base of the Statue
of Liberty. After I read it Olivia, the
activity coordinator joined us and we had a discussion about ancestors.
Louis' great
grandparents came from Germany and settled in Texas several generations ago. He
had many interesting stories to recount. Olivia added her own story – her father's
family included a freed slave and a slew of red-haired Irish; her mother's
family is Mexican and part Native American.
Olivia had to
run off to do something and so I told Louis and the lady in the wheel chair
about how my parents met and married in 1941. Louis and his wife were married
70 years until her passing last year.
Olivia returned
and took me into the "Memory Care" wing which is for patients with
Alzheimer's and other forms of dementia. There was no small meeting room just a
big open space with horrible acoustics.
She situated me in a chair and the residents gathered around me. One woman
said she was a retired English teacher, so I said, "Sit by me!"
One of the women
had a caregiver. The rest seemed to be on their own. Some were in their own
worlds, but others were able to focus on me. A man in a red sweater rolled his
wheel chair up close, as he had a hard time hearing me. I had a hard time too.
The workers were talking so loud, I had to practically shout to drown them out.
I decided to
read "The Spider and the Fly" because it's dramatic and I enjoy
playing the parts of the spider and the fly. The retired English teacher knew
many of the lines.
Then I read my
"Ode to My Stapler" and the fellow in the red sweater said, "I
don't understand why you're here and what I'm supposed to do."
I said,
"I'm the entertainment! I'm supposed to entertain you!" and a woman
across from me who had been staring vacantly looked me in the eye and chuckled.
The retired
teacher liked my poem but the man in the red sweater asked again what he was
supposed to do. I chose a few poems by
students from a CPITS anthology. These were more "poetic," meaning less
linear and didn't follow a logical progression. I think the residents liked
them.
But the workers
on the phone and talking to each other were just too loud. I got up and told
them, "This isn't working out, I can't yell over you."
I was disappointed
that they didn't say they'd try to be quiet. I told the residents I'm going to
a writers' retreat in West Texas next week and I'll tell them about it the next
time I come back.
The retired
teacher said, "That's lovely." I squeezed her arm and bid adieu to my
audience. Outside the wind was whipping.
The last of today's rainclouds were vanishing, leaving the sky a bright,
shocking blue.
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